The power of reframing

“Never let go of hope. One day you will see that it all has finally come together. What you have always wished for has finally come to be. You will look back and laugh at what has passed and you will ask yourself… ‘How did I get through all of that?” ~Author Unknown

Almost everything in life can be reframed! Do you think that the cup is half empty or half full? Is this a crises or is this an opportunity for growth? Are you fearful or are you simply excited? At one point or another, everybody in the self-development field has addressed the concept of reframing, or changing the frame of reference of a situation.  This month we are going to talk about reframing the story that you tell others about your life, so that it is presented in the most positive perspective possible. Why is this important?

The key point to understand is that after reframing an event, a new meaning is created. When that meaning is activated or validated by a person (when he or she says, “yes, that is true”) it becomes a belief. As you have heard all your life, whatever you believe becomes your reality.

Reframing is the strategy to change the meaning of something (an event, experience, news, or situation) by creating another frame (reference point) to it. Basically, reframing creates a new and different interpretation that reaches a different conclusion. It allows you to feel and behave in a different way. It is a very powerful tool for mastery if one is committed to a successful and enjoyable life.

A basic example of reframing can be someone who attempted to do something and she did not get the desired outcome she wanted. Under this scenario, the outcome was a failure. Well, an empowerment coach could help that person to reframe the meaning of that event, and instead of labeling it a “failure, ” can decide to label it as “one more way you have learned how not to do something”, or “getting one step closer to your goal.” Does that make sense?

Below I have listed some simple Thriving Techniques that can help you to reframe a situation and connect the dots of your own story in a more positive, empowering way:

 


THRIVING TECHNIQUES

·        Connect the dots in your life and reframe your story as a powerful, positive journey.

·        Choose to be positive; remember, rejection is merely a concept that exists only in your head.  When you experience rejection, you are no worse off physically than you were before.

·        See perceived obstacles as opportunities to grow and to stretch

·        Persistence allows you to pursue your goals.  In the face of obstacles, and feedback, you can adjust your course and reach your ultimate goal!  Persistency equates success.  Persistence is the difference between mediocrity and excellence.

·        Live in the magical moment of “NOW”.

And remember what John C. Lily said, “Every belief is a limit to be examined and transcended.”

Good luck on your journey, and the joy the empowering, exciting process of effective communication! 

 

In Love We Trust,

Lisa Waldrep